Transgressive – Involving a violation of accepted or imposed religious and/or social rules.
Nearly everything about me, whether by choice or circumstance, transgresses the white, patriarchal, and Christian supremacist social rules that dominate in the US. I was a poor teen single mom who had to lift my bi-racial children out of generational poverty by myself. I’m fat, sex positive, queer and married to a nonbinary person, kinky, disabled, and have a mental illness (CPTSD from being raised on the margins with abandonment, neglect, abuse, addictions, parental mental illness, and poverty). I’m also a rebellious woman who doesn’t care about status and refuses to accept the dehumanization this culture has sought to force on me since I was a teenager.
Transgression is vital to my ability to thrive in a culture that endeavors to deny our humanity at every turn. When I transgress I refuse to submit to this culture’s stories of superiority. Transgression is my road to liberation.
Regarding this newsletter, I’m currently working on a heavily researched book in response to the conversation that’s been unfolding since #metoo about feminism and the sexual revolution. I produced erotic parties with a sex positive community in rural northern California for several years, which seems to have given me a unique perspective on sex, relationships, and safety. I’m researching the history of sex and feminism in western culture spanning the last 2000 years in order to understand how we got here (hint: Christian supremacy, which isn’t even mentioned in any of the books I’ve read so far about the history and philosophies of sex). I plan to work toward book content with pieces written for this space and share the interesting things I’m learning about where our ideas about sex and gender came from.
In defiance of capitalism’s dehumanization, I will never be a brand or fit a niche. I’m a whole human with a lot of intellectual interests and will also write about any topic that inspires my soul to express itself.
